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Friday, 28-Apr-2017 02:11:48 EDT
beyond the tragedy is a real person
by SHEILA QUINN
CURRENT EVENTS

Each time there is a media frenzy over tragedies such as that of Rehtaeh Parsons, it is important to be aware that the story itself leads many victims of similar abuse to relive their own horror in some way. It's inescapable – and invasive while the sensationalism rips into them again and again serving as a new reminder of their past. Victims know they are not unique in their heart-breaking stories, that this happens to too many citizens in our nation, and yet they struggle to find peace and normalcy in a society where the media relies on making money from the telling and retelling of the latest horror.

Rehtaeh Parsons

April 12, 2013 – For any victim who has courageously come forward, to them everybody in their intimate world knows at least 'something' of their ordeal and it is the victim's perception that they are forever standing completely naked in a room full of people. They live with a silent pressure that can be intense and often overwhelming. No matter how much devoted care and love is received by the victim, he or she will always sense the anguish, confusion, anger, and occasionally denial in those closest to them. This can leave the victim feeling responsible and guilty for everything that has happened. Really all a victim wants is to feel normal again, and their family and friends to be their old selves. They want to be more than the tragedy that found them.

To get away from this pressure, some victims attempt a fresh start by leaving friends and jobs behind, severing ties with family, and even relocating to different cities – but one thing always remains the same: that.

Victims are altered emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually for years beyond the healing of any physical wounds. With counselling and the full painful participation of the victim, an understanding about what happened to them can take place along with the promise of being able to function each day more easily.

But they remain forever altered to the last of their days.

To many victims, nothing is ever forgotten – merely survived. For some, the pressure and desperation can be too much and a tragic past begets a tragic end. Rehtaeh Parsons' young and far too-short life is but Canada's latest example...

We at SayItCanada read and posted the emotional letter written by Rehtaeh's father, Glen Canning. He is a victim too, as are all of Rehtaeh's other family members and friends. Let it be known that such crimes have a rippling effect on everyone involved, directly and indirectly.

But from loss can come the clarion call to act.

Canning's love and loss of his daughter is real and heart-breaking. Perhaps this is an opportunity for each of us to pledge ourselves to seeing beyond any tragedy to the person at its core. Then we can think of this young woman for what she aspired to be rather than what fate conspired to give her.

The media has its job to do whether we like it or not... We ask that you please remember all of the victims of these crimes when you click through to read 'the latest and greatest' in your Google searches. It is never the desire of a victim to 'stand naked' before any audience... but to be recognized for everything else instead.

Sheila Quinn
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