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ask sean: dumped on facebook SEAN MICHAEL
DATING AND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE (Mature content. 18yrs+)
When your best friend dumps you on Facebook for his girlfriend.
Greetings, Kids! Sorry for disappearing last week but your Hero Sean was sick and crazy busy, so he decided to take a break from Ask Sean. But fear not – he has vanquished his illness, is still kinda busy, but is back to give you this week's adventure!
On the menu today we have yet another of my famous Rants for you. Going to be yelling at you boys that aren't standing up as men for your ladies. After that we'll talk about a quick spice-of-her-life idea for when you're digging in on your girl. And finally, we'll talk about dealing with the ex that just doesn't want to let go.
Anyway, Kids, it is time for you to dig in on this weeks adventure...
WHEN YOUR BEST FRIEND DUMPS YOU FOR HIS GIRLFRIEND
LOST A FRIEND asks:
Last night I was extremely upset by a good friend. We have been friends for a long time. He has a girlfriend who doesn't like me, and has been on his ass about being friends with me. After months of her bitching at him about being friends with me, he unfriended me on Facebook, and sent me a text apologizing for doing that. He said sometimes peace is more important than being right.
I told him to tell me that in ten years when he has compromised his life away to make her happy. Personally, I hate that kind of manipulation. Anyway, I think he should stand up to her and tell her to deal with it. Manipulation breeds resentment...
What do you think about men who let women tell them who they can be friends with?
SEAN says: Okay, I'm feeling another rant coming on. It's welling up inside. Yep, I can feel it... and...
<Rant Mode ON>
Boys! Why the hell would you let your girlfriends tell you who you can be friends with?!? You think this is going to prevent a fight? To help make your relationship work? NO! If you let your girlfriend decide how to run your life for you, she is then ‘The Man' of the relationship and you are now her Bitch. When you subordinate yourself to anyone, they can only look down on you.
You think this is going to save your relationship? You have just destroyed it! Women want you to be a man! They respect you when you have your own opinions. When you don't buckle to her every whim. When you have some integrity. If you buckle under all of her opinions and ideas, you become boring and useless.
If you ask me, and it doesn't matter if you do because I'll tell you anyway, this is why so many relationships are falling apart these days. Men aren't standing up to be men anymore and women are tired of being stuck with pussy-whipped losers.
Gentlemen, stand up tall, have opinions on things, don't be afraid to disagree with your girl once in a while, get a job, get your finances in order, grow a spine, get some integrity, live a life that is filled with adventure and awesomeness. This is what girls want in a man.
They don't want a pet that rolls onto their backs as she walks in the door.
<Rant Mode OFF>•
Do you have a question?
CUNNING LINGUISTIC asks: When presented with the challenge to be better than my opposition at giving my Friend-With-Benefits oral sex, I introduced toothpaste to the equation. Subsequently, I now have no competition.
So my question is... Do you have any specific oral tricks and techniques that you would like to share?
SEAN says: Every girl has their own combination when licking her bean, so other than taking it slow and finding her magic solution, I won't bother with anything too clinical. But as far as special stuff that you can try to make things more exciting, you can't go wrong with Poprocks. Any girl who's had the experience will be happy to throw down their recommendations. •
Do you have a question?
HE DOESN'T WANT TO LET GO AFTER A BREAKUP
CONTROL AFTER BREAKUP asks: Can you explain to me from a man's point of view: if you break up with someone and know you're not getting back together, how can you still want to control that woman and tell her she can't move on either?
SEAN says: Oscar Wilde once wrote “Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.” Your ex still wants to have power over you, even though the sex is gone. At our cores, we all want to be liked. Even by the people we don't like, we still wish they would like us. Call it vanity or insecurity, but we still feel hurt when people don't think we're awesome. So part of not wanting you to move on is him interpreting it as you don't like him anymore.
But in this case, I'm sensing more of a bully mentality from him. More of a ‘if I can't have her, no one can have her' mentality. This is more on the side of jealousy, which is one of the most powerful (if not the most powerful) emotions that we have. And it can be dangerous. Jealous people can do horrible things and you really need to be leery of him if he's like that. For the sake of safety, I'd try to drop contact with him. If that's not possible because of issues like shared children, make sure that you always have a friend go with you when you need to meet with him. It could be nothing to worry about, but better safe than sorry.
That's all this week Kids, to be continued...•
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