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ask sean: kiss the girl SEAN MICHAEL
DATING AND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE (Mature content. 18yrs+)
Understanding her signals and keeping them positive for that first kiss.
All right devoted Ask Sean Readers! I'm going to keep this intro super short because there is a lot you need to discover from this week's topics. You're going to find out When it's the perfect time to kiss that girl of yours; How to find that perfect man after having your heart broken; and then Why some guys shy away from a woman that knows what she wants in bed.
No more ado's, begin your adventure... now!
WHEN AND HOW TO KISS HER, UNDERSTAND THE SIGNS
WHEN TO KISS asks:
Met a girl at a club, had the chemistry up and running within five minutes. Touched her back and everything, she let it happen. Guess I waited too long because she eventually left without me being able to fulfill my duties.
Is it okay to kiss a girl after the first couple of minutes when you've just met?
SEAN says: Okay, the short answer is: after you meet her but before she gets bored and leaves you. For the longer answer, I'm going to borrow from David DeAngelo's famous 'Kiss Test'.
You've been talking to a girl and want to know if she's ready to be kissed, you can:
reach over and touch her hair while you're talking and make a comment about it, 'Your hair looks so soft,' and just touch the tips of it.
If you see that your girl is receptive to what you're doing at this point – that she's responding positively by allowing this 'innocent' physical contact – it's game on.
If you see that she's smiling and drawing closer as you touch her hair instead of tensing up and pulling away, you can take it as a that she is attracted.
But listen, if she does pull away at this point – or shows any sign that she's not into it – that is when you stop and move on.
If luck is on your side, she's smiling at you, relaxing her face and her body, and leaning into you... then here's what you can do next:
reach back over and start stroking her hair some more;
glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times to reinforce in her that there's a connection happening between you two; and,
continue touching her hair, letting your lips get closer to hers – but not touching. Basically, amplify that first spark of attraction that you now know for certain she's feeling.
I can tell you, this is a powerful thing. Its effect on women is unbelievable. By this point, she'll be more than 'just okay' with kissing her... She's probably feeling such intense levels of attraction that she'll probably be the one who tries to kiss you.
Either way, go get her tiger... •
Do you have a question?
FALLING IN LOVE
HURT asks: Help! I want to find 'the one' and fall in love but I am so messed up over the last time I fell. It was the first time in like 14yrs that I had really let someone in and he just stopped talking. He says I did nothing wrong and that he cares about me. In my head I know it's all lies but my heart wanted to believe him.
Well I am over that – still pissy but not trying to get him back. Anyway, how do I keep from going back to being cold and just using men for sex? I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life.
SEAN says: Okay, what I want you to do is to stop looking for that 'perfect man' to save you and sweep you off of your feet. Or at least, put that pursuit on the backburner... Instead, I suggest you focus on you.
What ambitions do you want to pursue in life? How can you make yourself into a better person? Do you want a better job? Better health? A life of travel? What things do you want to accomplish with the life you have? The next step is to start making those things happen.
The long and short of it is, you need to fall in love with you before you fall for another man. Be the one that inspires your life and makes it awesome. This will make a few great things happen:
it will make your life awesome;
it will make you more attractive to other people. There is nothing hotter than a person that has it together; and,
once you love you, you won't settle for someone else that doesn't love you. You will be the chooser, not the settler, and people with choice always get the best options.
Make it happen! •
Do you have a question?
TURN ON OR TURN OFF
KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS asks:
Is there something wrong with a sexually aware woman, aka she knows what she wants and needs concerning sex... Turn on or turn off?
SEAN says: Okay, there is and there isn't. On paper, guys want a girl that is very sexually aware and is willing to try crazy things to make sex awesome. However, in actuality, if you are taking the lead in the bedroom, it can be emasculating for some guys. Some guys are feminine and want to be led by a masculine woman – but for guys that think they are masculine, it can make them feel weak in their role as the Man.
Now how does one fix this? Well luckily you didn't ask me that part of the question and I'm just about to go too long for this episode as it is. Send in your new or follow-up questions and maybe this will be one of them answered next week!
How's that for a cop out?
To be continued...•
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