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ask sean: recently divorced SEAN MICHAEL
DATING AND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE (Mature content. 18yrs+)
Don't try to understand women.
Women understand women and they hate each other.
HOW TO START DATING AGAIN AFTER DIVORCE
RECENTLY DIVORCED asks:
Need some advice... I've been separated since December 2011.
I just want to start dating again but honestly, I don't even know what a date is anymore. Plus with 3 kids I don't have too much time to meet anyone... If I'm not working, I have my kids. So my actually going out anywhere to meet men doesn't exactly happen...
Go to meet people at casual places like Starbucks, the library, grocery store, the mall – or even better, at a dance or cooking class, something you want to be good at, etc. Somewhere casual that you can test the waters before committing to anything. •
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AND WOMEN WONDER WHY MEN CHEAT?!
NOT GETTING ANY asks:
Had this discussion at work tonight. When did it become acceptable in America for a married woman to not' give it up' to her husband as much as possible? The big joke around work is "Oh, not having sex? You must be married."
Every guy I know is not getting enough from his wife...
And women wonder why men cheat?!
Too many men don't know how to let their women feel sexy and loved and when a girl doesn't feel sexy, she isn't going to give you any. Because guys are binary, they feel that if you are in a relationship, you don't need to put in the effort to flirt or touch or give your girl that look that gets her drippy.
Like 'I already have her so why spend time trying to get her' but it’s the act of seducing her all day long that drives her crazy for you. If you want a woman to have sex with you, do what you did in the beginning to get her in the first place.
She wants sex too, but she wants that intimacy and electrical charge on top of that.
And you do too.
It's what makes the relationship worth having. Do that and you'll never have to beg or go without – ever. •
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GREEN LIGHT FOR NAKED TWISTER
GETTING THE GIRL asks:
I went to a local bar alone and went up to the first girl I saw. I only had one or two beers prior and approached without a drink in hand. This made the approach a bit uneasy for me, but I got talking to her and all was good. She was with a friend who shit tested me a couple times, and I must've passed because things went all right.
I went back to the same bar the next day with a few friends and she was there again. When she saw me, she said, "Hey!" and gave me a hug. After some more talking, I got her number.
The next day, she texted me at midnight to let me know what bar she was at.
I replied and went. We stayed at the bar with her friends until closing. As we walked out, I didn't know how to invite her over so I said, "Well hey, I'm really hungry. I'm going to make some Mac n Cheese at my place. You should come!"
She got hesitant and said she was just going home because she worked early the next morning.
Now to the hard spot. That same night, she texted me to say what we could all meet up for Monday night. I replied, "Oh, nice. I'll let you know if I can make it."
And she said, "Okay."
So, none of my texts were witty, which I think should have been. Also, I didn't meet her at the bar because I didn't want to look like I'd come out every single time she invited me.
Where should I go from here? And what would you have said and done? This is my first genuinely successful pickup... I really want to make things work!
When she said that she will be at X bar and doesn't have to work the next day, she was opening the door that you thought she shut in your face when she didn't go for Mac n Cheese. That was your window to spend at her place. I get that you wanted to play aloof, but in this case, you misread the green light to play naked Twister. You really should have gone to that one as she was escalating you.
But ya, these are lessons you will learn as you get more girls. But try to also spend more time talking to girl friends who can help you with reading their body language and some of the subtle cues that they give off. Like go to the mall or bar/restaurant and point out couples and what their body language is telling her. Work on the translations from girl to guy so you don't miss them when they come up in your day to day and dating life. •
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