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ask sean: primal beauty SEAN MICHAEL
DATING AND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE (Mature content. 18yrs+)
I wanted to ask you what is it about a girl being angry that guys like? I had a minor fit last night over something I had tried to do three times and each time I got horrible results. I looked over and there was my coworker smiling at me. I'm like, "What?" He said guys like it when girls get mad. Can I ask why?
Because it's that primal thing inside that they try to hide. There is that fake persona that we like to pretend is us, and then there is that raw person inside that we really are. When you cry or become angry or laugh uncontrollably or scream in orgasmic ecstasy, that is when you reveal the real you. •
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THE TRICK TO BEING HER MAN IS...?
Lil J Hunter asks:
The thing that sucks the most about being me is that I'm not the type of guy to treat a girl badly – I don't put her down, I don't ever want to make her cry, I don't ever want to hurt her, and I always try my best to make her happy always. But all the girls I meet want the bad boy, the guy that will cheat on them and not care about them. These guys treat them like shit, put them down all the time... and it sucks that I fall for those girls.
They always tell me the same words – I only like you as a friend or you're not my type or I don't want to hurt you because...
Lil J, you don't have to be the bad boy and you don't have to lose your nice qualities. The fact is, the reason why girls go for the bad boys is not for the violence or disrespect, but for the emotions that they trigger in her. Too many nice guys kill emotion in her by giving her too much.
Think of how you feel when you see a Christmas present wrapped under the tree. How exciting it is to find out what is inside. Having to wait those days before Christmas before you get to open it and find out how great it is. Then Christmas day comes along and – meh – just a pair of socks.
The nice guy does his best to give her those socks without her even asking. But she wants that anticipation of the wrapped present. That tingle of anticipation and thrill.
So give that to her.
Don't call and text her a thousand times a day. Give her the gift of 'missing you'. Don't buckle to her opinion all the time, have your own opinions. Let her cry or scream, but be the calm Man with the strong arms that can hold her while she feels her emotions.
Girls don't want a doormat, they want a Man who will take her on adventures, make her feel safe in his arms, let her have time to think about him (keep in mind that people fall in love in the absence of the other while thinking about them, not when they are together), and have a direction in your life that she can support and nurture you through. The trick to being a Man is knowing how to make your girl feel like a Woman.
So ya, don't be afraid to be a nice guy – just learn how to make her tingle inside when she thinks about you. •
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